If you grew up in a toxic family, you know the feeling all too well. You feel like you can’t do anything right, and that no matter what you do, you’ll never be good enough. Toxic families are characterized by verbal abuse, emotional manipulation, and/or physical violence. If you grew up in one of these families, it’s likely that you have low self-esteem and poor boundaries. You may also struggle with trust issues and intimacy problems.
Fortunately, you can heal from the pain of your childhood. It will take time and effort, but it is possible to move on from your toxic family and create a healthy, happy life for yourself. To help you on your journey, here are some toxic family quotes to inspire and motivate you.
Toxic family quotes
1.) “You don’t get to choose your family, but you do get to choose how they’re allowed to treat you.”
2.) “Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it’s the place we find the deepest heartache.”
3.) “Some people play victims of crimes they committed.”
4.) “How you choose to feel today should not be dependent on others.”
5.) “Families are homes built on a foundation of trust and love. A toxic family can never be a home, because the foundation doesn’t exist.”
6.) “When you walk away from a toxic family, you begin the journey of finding your true people.”
7.) “My friend, you are not alone. No matter what you’ve suffered, the abuse was not your fault. You didn’t cause someone to hurt you. Not as an innocent child, teenager, nor as an adult. Let that sink in. It’s not your fault.”
8.) “Your heart knows when you have given too many chances.”
9.) “A child should never feel as if they need to earn a mother’s love.”
10.) “Every person is built like a computer, and the delete key is there for a reason.”
Quotes about bad family
11.) “Blood doesn’t make you family. Some of the most demonic and demeaning people in your life share your DNA.”
12.) “You don’t have to leave your whole family in the past, just those who don’t deserve a place in your future.”
13.) “It’s not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons.”
14.) “Humans can be so ugly sometimes that the ones you love the most would only love to see you fall. It’s a cruel world.”
15.) “The black sheep blazes the trail for other family members to follow when they finally see the wolf.”
16.) “A child should never feel as if they need to earn a mother’s love.”
17.) “Toxic parents care more about how you make them look than how you actually feel.”
18.) “Family or not, I will cut you off. That saying “but that’s family” means nothing if a family is toxic and means you no good.”
19.) “I was born into this family and all I got was a bad attitude.”
20.) “Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”
Cutting off toxic family quotes
21.) “You’ve been lied to so many times that you know who not to trust. That’s not trust issues; that’s lessons learned.”
22.) “Because I love you” is not the reason for manipulation or abuse.”
23.) “The more dysfunctional, the more some family members seek to control the behavior of others.”
24.) “I don’t wish I was born in a different family; I wish I was born in a real family.”
25.) “Let’s get out of the habit of telling people, “that’s still your mom, your dad, or your sister.” Toxic is toxic. You are allowed to walk away from people that constantly hurt you.”
26.) “Ending the toxic cycle within your own life isn’t easy. When you don’t come from a healthy family, you do your best to ensure a healthy one comes from you.”
27.) “You don’t let go of a bad relationship because you stop caring about them. You let go because you start caring about yourself.”
28.) “If I have to endure one more holiday with my family, I might have to join the circus.”
29.) “Toxic family relationships spoil all other relationships unless you remove the poison before it’s too late.”
30.) “You can miss a person every day and still be glad that they are no longer in your life.”
Heartbreaking unsupportive family Quotes
31.) “If the family you chose before your birth no longer supports your path towards fulfilling your true destiny, it is never too late to find a new tribe.”
32.) “These people were meant to raise me, instead I’ve had to raise them right out of my life.”
33.) “In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past but you will find yourself.”
34.) “Remember…Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you.”
35.) “Families and their problems go on and on, and they aren’t solved; they’re dealt with.”
36.) “All the men in my family were bearded and most of the women.”
37.) “Giving birth doesn’t make you a parent, me choosing to call you Mom (or Dad) does.”
38.) “Cutting people off doesn’t have limits. Family can get cut off too if they are causing you stress. Eliminate any negativity in your circle.”
39.) “If your family doesn’t treat you the right way, make sure you do.”
40.) “Unsupportive family is your weakness, so leave the ones that hurt you.”
41.) “Family is where you’re meant to be most free. Don’t let blood chain you down.”
42.) “Calling this a family doesn’t make it a loving home, it just makes it a hateful lie.”
43.) “Love them from a distance. Pray for them, wish them well, but don’t allow them to abuse you.”
44.) “Leave when you need to. In 10 years, you will look back and realize it’s the best decision ever.”
45.) “Always stay up strong, even when you don’t get support from the family. To succeed in life, you need to leave behind the ones who hinder your progress.”
46.) “Saying “No” to a toxic family member shows that you understand what family truly means.”
47.) “Family or not I will cut you off. That saying “but that’s family” means nothing if a family is toxic and means you no good.”
48.) “It’s not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons.”
49.) “Things only get better when you cut off the worst.”
50.) “I may be the black sheep of the family, but at least I am me and not a fictitious white sheep I am not.”
Toxic family sayings
51.) “You went through a “No” phase as a toddler as practice for when you needed to say it as an adult.”
52.) “Ending the toxic cycle within your own life isn’t easy. When you don’t come from a healthy family, you do your best to ensure a healthy one comes from you.”
53.) “When you don’t come from a healthy family, you do your best to ensure a healthy one comes from you.”
54.) “People talk about dysfunctional families; I’ve never seen any other kind.”
55.) “You have the right to put up a fence between you and your family, and the choice whether to include a gate.”
56.) “Just because someone gives you life doesn’t mean they will love you the right way.”
57.) “You can’t change someone who can’t see an issue in their actions.”
58.) “Parent-child relationships aren’t created at birth, they’re created in life.”
59.) “We all come from dysfunctional families, and these days I guess that’s pretty normal.”
60.) “You didn’t choose your family, but you can choose how to define family.”
61.) “I don’t understand how some people are okay with themselves knowing they emotionally destroyed someone.”
62.) “It’s okay to cut toxic family member out of your life. Blood ain’t thicker than peace of mind.”
63.) “They burned the bridge, then ask why I don’t visit.”
64.) “I will unfriend, uncousin, unco-worker, unfollow, unfamily a draining soul real quick.”
65.) “You are not obligated to have relationships with family members who are not good for your mental health.”
Final thoughts
Toxic family quotes can be a powerful way to help you move on from the hurt and pain of a dysfunctional family. When you surround yourself with positive messages about who you are, it becomes easier to distance yourself emotionally from those who have hurt you in the past. These quotes can also remind you that your toxic family is not the only family out there. You deserve to be surrounded by people who love and support you – choose them wisely. What toxic family quote resonates most with you?